I love challenges. I constantly sign up for new e-mail challenges, Christmas, stress-busters, health, you name it. And that was just this month. I don’t know if it’s the challenge themselves, just to prove I “can” do it or something else. I think it’s probably a mix, a desire to better myself and to push myself.
I would encourage you to check out Karen’s blog and challenge.
Here’s a few things I learned from it:
Day 1: I didn’t necessarily learn this entirely today, but it does apply. I am a control freak. Holidays, especially Christmas, included. It’s not specific items I want to control, but mainly, I don’t want my important things forgotten.
I do find it a bit challenging to give up all control of the holidays to my ten year old. (The challenge is backing off on making any holiday decision.) But I can commit to backing off of some and including her more, backing off completely at time. Part two of the challenge, I did include having Fiona’s input on our Random Acts of Christmas Kindness — and I changed some of them to better suit her. I want her to enjoy it, so she should be in on the planning and this year I will let her do it her way.; 🙂
Day 2: Today was a good one for me!! I think it was a good reminder of what’s really important! The holidays (any holiday) doesn’t have to be “perfect.” Especially when our standard of perfect comes from HGTV, a magazine, or Pinterest. Sometimes imperfection makes the best memories…sometimes way better memories than the “perfect” ones. Change your focus from the external to the internal.
Christmas at my actual home has never been perfect, rarely ever lived up to my expectations. And in the past, that’s always made me sad/frustrated/discouraged. This year, thanks to the challenge, I hope to resolve that. Instead of the old standard, this year we will focus on others. Our “measuring stick” will be the joy that we see. In the big picture — and really, truly, the important Eternity picture — nothing else matters. It’s about loving family and celebrating Jesus’ birth. It is not about gifts, lights, decorations, food, or whatever. And refocusing makes all the difference in the world.
Day 3: Ooh! I love the Bible. Today’s verse really hit me — Mark 7:8. Check it out. Traditions are a funny thing. We really stuck to them more when I was a kid, then the last few years have been this weird in-flux time in our lives. A couple things have remained, but not really a lot of our traditions. I did have a family meeting with Fiona and we together decided what this would look like for our family this year.
The tradition that knocks me out is the amount of gifts. Too much money, too much time shopping, too much wrapping. It’s just too much. This year we are downsizing. And grabbing a new perspective? Done. Love others. Seek peace. Don’t worry. Love this…I am enjoying this Christmas more already!!